16 October 2009

um yeah.

slight repost. sometimes people need reminders in the most subtle ways.

1: the female of the dog or some other carnivorous mammals

2 a: a lewd or immoral woman b: a malicious, spiteful, or overbearing woman —sometimes used as a generalized term of abuse

3: something that is extremely difficult, objectionable, or unpleasant

4: complaint

I'm changing. The older I get, the more aggressive and assertive I've become in almost every area in my life. Demanding what I want quite frankly without the extra shit. Just because I’m strong minded, becoming a bit brutally honest and more assertive doesn’t make me a bitch. Don't get me wrong, those in my circle use the word loosely, which is cool. But I'm speaking to those who use it with malice. If someone approaches me in a certain manner I will reciprocate in the same manner. I’ll just be more effective at it. My threshold for ignorance and bullshit has decreased (finally), thus, leading to thoughts of me being a bitch. Those who know me, know I'm really not ... I'm actually very nice... in fact, I'm too nice. However, if being a bitch means handling my priorities well and making sure I get what I want deserve…then I guess I'm guilty. I will tolerate nothing but the best for me. Especially if I've earned it.

"When a woman is assertive and adamant about what she wants, she's totally branded a 'bitch,' 'difficult,' 'hard to work with,' or whatever the case may be. You know what? I'll take it. Call me a bitch, call me whatever, it doesn't matter." ~Kelis


aRRe said...

I totally agree with this. I mean, I'm still young, but def. old enough to know enough. & one thing that I do know is, like you settling isn't an option. I will admit, sometimes I find myself slacking a bit but my bounce is quick...I think worrying about what ppl think is what enables the slackage but I quickly remember that it's not about them, it's about me.

& this applies to love, friends, work, etc.

The Anti-Pop said...

concurrage. I struggle sometimes with even using it within my close circle - it's one of those things that ends up slipping out so casually like the N word. There is something to be said about ppl getting too damn personal and thinking you're cool like that, or just being brash for no reason. so umm yea, check em.

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